2 Samuel 16:5-12
Shimei's specific charge against David was false. David was not responsible for the death of Saul and the destruction of his family. The exact opposite was true. David had protected Saul when his men wanted to take his life (1 Samuel 26:8). David even killed the man who claimed to have taken Saul's life (2 Samuel 1:1-15). David restored all of Saul's land to his grandson, Mephibosheth, and had him eat at the king's table (2 Samuel 9:7).
However, the general charge of David being a "man of blood" was accurate. David did take Uriah's life to protect his own interest (2 Samuel 11:15). The reason God did not allow David to build Him a house was because he was "a man of war and have shed blood" (1 Chronicles 28:3).
David's reaction to Shimei displays unusual insight and patience though. Man's natural tendency when things are out of his control is to attempt to control those things he can. David did not have any control over what Absalom was doing, but he did have the power to stop Shimei cursing him. All he needed to do was turn Abishai loose. Instead, David acknowledged the LORD might be using Shimei, so who was he to shut him up? David recognized he had bigger problems than Shimei cursing and throwing rocks. Shimei was an irritant, but Absalom meant to take David's life. David also knew God saw what was happening and might bless him because of the wrong he endured.
1 Peter 2:21-23 tells us David's response was appropriate. As disciples of Jesus, we are to follow his example. Verse 23 says Jesus did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor did he seek revenge but trusted God to judge the situation fairly.
It seems David learned a valuable life lesson from Nathan's parable. David quickly saw the injustice and sin of the man in Nathan's story. Can't we all see sin in others quicker and more clearly than sin in our own lives? When Nathan turned the tables on David by saying, "You are the man!", David was confronted with his sin. Is it possible when Shimei was taunting David, even though the particular accusation was false, David saw his own sin rather than Shimei's?
Paul was able to declare himself to be the worst sinner of all (1 Timothy 1:15). Just think of all the times he was falsely accused, beaten, imprisoned and stoned, but he counted himself a greater sinner than those who had mistreated him so harshly.
While being mistreated, can you see your sin and rebellion through the sin of others?
LORD God, merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness, forgive me for so quickly judging the sin of others and justifying my own. Holy Spirit, please teach me the lesson "Roy, you are the man!" Lord Jesus, I tend to focus on my mistreatment. Please turn my eyes to Your unjust suffering for my sake so that even I, the worst sinner of all, could be forgiven.